Keeping impotency or frigidity under wraps at the time of tying the knot that causes marital discord and break-up has triggered a debate following a high court poser to the government why then not pun
Keeping impotency or frigidity under wraps at the time of typing the knot that causes marital discord and break-up has triggered a debate following high court poser to the government why then not punish the guilty. Observing it is an avoidable human tragedy, Justice N. Kirubakaran of the Medurai bench of the Madras High Court Aug. 27 suggested ‘if pre-marital clinical examination by doctors are done, it will not only prevent impotents from getting married, but (also) prevent marriages of people suffering from dangerous and incurable diseases’.
He was hearing a petition seeking to quash proceedings pending against a man on a complaint by his wife under the Protection of Women from domestic Violence Act, 2005. A Bangalore- based NGO Sunday said enacting law for both the groom and the bride is a must.
President of the NGO, Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), Kumar V. Jahgirdar told IANS: ‘We welcome the high court interim observation that potency test should be made mandatory before marriage with the condition that the couple should be included in the test.’ Justice Kirubakaran said: ‘The governments (both the central and the Tamil Nadu government) could also think of including a provision for awarding compensation or punishment for suppression of impotency or frigidity.’ Nothing that women were the worst sufferers in such cases, the court said, ‘It violated the very basic human rights and right to decent and meaningful life.’
Jahgirdar said: ‘I have seen a lot of couples filing impotency cases with one spouse complaining of being cheated. The pain lasts lifetime since majority of such cases are unreported and the victim suffers in silence.’ He added: ‘However, enacting a law only for men to do the potency test is unconstitutional and gender-biased.’
Swarup Sircar, head of Save Indian Family, Delhi said impotency is related to psychological condition and hormone imbalance.
‘In the Hindu Marriage Act, if the marriage is not consummated, the court also make a decree declaring the marriage as null and void. But nobody believes that the wife can suffer due to impotency.’ he said.
Radha Krishna, a gynaecologist based in Bangalore, said many wives suffer silently about their husband’s impotency due to social stigma. ‘The wife is always targeted for infertility, mainly by in-law. So, examination of the couple before marriage is a must.’ She, however, said infertility is different from impotency and added pre-marital counselling is needed since India lacks sex education at the school level.
Observing the high rate of impotency-related marriage failures, Justice Kirbakaran asked: ‘Whether state and central government are aware of the social scourge and whether they are ready to amend marriage laws to fast-track matrimonial disputes?’
Quoting data of the Chennai family court, Justice Kirubakaran, who posted the matter for next hearing Sep. 5, said the number of failed marriages due to impotency has increases to 715 in 2013 from 88 in 2009. The court asked the government about steps being contemplated to address the ‘serious problem/ human tragedy.’ Jahgirdar said pre-marital counselling should be made mandatory to bring down the number of divorces, adding the divorce cases are increasing in Bangalore due to stress that leads to impotency. ‘The government should not grant marriage certificate without pre-marriage counselling. It should take responsibility to save marriage.’ he said.
Impotency or erectile dysfunction seems to be the most serious problem afflicting Indian men. At least half of the sex-related questions deal with men who are suffering erection- related problems and it’s hard to pin down the exact reason for this epidemic. A sedentary lifestyle, lack of exercise, smoking, drinking, obesity-related diseases and stress are all taking a toll on our men. The problem is exacerbated by the prudish nature of our society. Most men wouldn’t dare go to a doctor to discuss the problem which leads to a lot of unhappiness and self-image issues among men.
It is important that you realize that the most important organ in your body is not your penis but your brain. A lot of people fail to get an erection just because they are too anxious or nervous when the moment arrives, even if they are otherwise healthy. It can also be due to stress or the prospect of living up to the image of masculinity. Prescription medications such as Sildenafil Citrate, Tadalafil Citrate and Verdinafil all treat the condition. All three medication work the same way, by helping increase blood flow to the penis. The medications are taken a half hour before sex and the effects can last from 4 to 5 hours. However these drugs all have serious side-effects and it is important to talk to your doctor and discuss your entire medical history before taking any of these drugs.